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Stress
How To
Cope With It?
(alsalafyoon article)
All human beings are exposed to stress
without exception. Even the Prophets of Allah, human beings as they were,
had to undergo tests and trials, which resulted in temporary stress. Furthermore,
optimum stress may be necessary for human survival. Therefore, it is not
possible to have a completely stress-free life, but, nevertheless, it
is vital to manage the stress to minimize its adverse affects on life.
In the true religion, we do not have
the concept of ownership of property and life as everything belongs to
God and returns to Him, man being only a trustee. So if we do not own
a particular thing then why mourn or grieve for the loss. God says in
the Qu'ran:
"Be sure We will test you with
something of fear and hunger, and loss of wealth and lives and fruits;
but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere." [2:155]
"Who, when a misfortune overtakes
them, say 'Surely, to Allah we belong and to Him shall we return.' "
[2:156]
Religious teachings tell us that our
destiny is predetermined, therefore, we do not have control over tomorrow's
events, as they are not related to our actions. We have only control over
a limited free will, our actions, our choices, and our belief. Thus worrying
over future events such as whether or not we will have accident tomorrow
or someone may die, is of no use.
People without faith behave differently
than those having faith, as they have no one to turn for help, to ask
for mercy and forgiveness. Therefore, they have no control on their life;
they get more depressed and consequently get further and further involved
in their wrongdoing. Contrary to this a believer can cope very easily
by following certain actions recommended by his religion, such as the
following:
*Increase remembrance of Allah as
in this action heart finds rest. Allah says in the Qur'an:
"Those who believe, and whose
hearts find comfort in the remembrance of Allah. For without doubt in
the remembrance of Allah do hearts find comfort." [13:28]
Increase prayer, as this is the best
way to ask Allah's help. Allah guides mankind in the following verse of
the Qur'an:
"O ye who believe, seek help
through perseverance and prayer; surely, Allah is with those who patiently
persevere." [2:153]
* Ask forgiveness from Allah Almighty,
as he is ever forgiving.
The Qur'an speaks in the following
words:
"Seek forgiveness from your Lord;
for He is Oft-Forgiving." [71:10]
* Ask Allah's help to enable us continue
to struggle and upgrade ourselves so that God will change us to the better.
The Qur'an confirms this action in
the following words:
"O mankind! There indeed had
come to you an admonition from your Lord and a healing for whatever disease
there is in the hearts, and a guidance and a mercy to the believers."
[10:57]
* Increase recitation of the Qur'an
as this action reduces stress and provides maximum benefit to those who
understand and enjoy the recitation with a firm belief that it is a Word
of God.
* Follow Prophet Muhammad's (may the
blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) guidance during stress.
Almost all the prophets of God had
to face tests and trials resulting in temporary stress condition. They
constantly remembered God, which helped in establishing peace in their
hearts. Prophet Muhammad (may the blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him) practiced and advised a specific prayer at the time of distress in
the following words:
"Allah (God Almighty) is sufficient
for us, and He is an excellent Guardian, and we repose our trust in Him.
Surely we belong to Allah and to Him we shall return. O Allah, I beseech
you for the reward of my hardship. Reward me and compensate me by substituting
(this hardship) with good."
Religious belief has a very important
bearing on our personality and outlook toward life. By putting our trust
in Allah, the Almighty, we minimize the stress level by reducing our responsibility
and power to control our failures. If we firmly hold on to the true religious
faith and follow its teachings, then coping with stress becomes very easy.
"Allah burdens not any soul more
than it can bear. It shall have the reward it earns, and it shall get
the punishment it incurs. Our Lord, do not punish us if we forget or fall
into error, and our Lord, lay not on us a responsibility as You did lay
upon those before us. Our Lord, burden us not with what we have not the
strength to bear; and blot out sins and grant us forgiveness and have
mercy on us: You are our Master; so grant us victory over the unbelievers."
[2:286]
If a worshipper is struck by grief
or sorrow and says the following prayer, Allah will drive his grief and
sorrow and give him happiness in its place:
"Allah I am your worshipper,
the son of your worshipper, my strength is in your Hand, my progress is
in Your Command, just is Your Judgement, I ask you by each of your names,
by which You called Yourself or revealed in Your Book, or which have taught
to one of Your creatures, or which You have chosen to keep in Your Secret
Knowledge to make the Qur'an the joy of my heart, the light of my eyes
which removes my grief and drives away my sorrow thus replacing it with
happiness." [Ahmad,ibn Hiban]
O Allah, make me adhere properly to
my religion, on which all my affairs depend; make this world good for
me in which is livelihood. Make my hereafter good for me, in which is
my ultimate destiny; make my life increase in every good thing and make
my death a respite from every evil.
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